White men are socialized to put themselves at the center of every interaction, to consider their perspective and experience as the only one, or at the very least, the most reliable one.
But if women do it, it’s perfectly fine.
AKA, one of the reasons I’m staying the fuck away from feminism.
Every functional individual on the planet considers their own perspective first, and most reliable. If you meet someone who doesn’t, that person is not healthy. It’s not about “socialization”. (That isn’t a magic lens to resolve all phenomena—as long as I’m being a critical prick.) It’s simple acquisition, processing, and indexing of information. We fit new experiences into a network of things we already know, from experiences lived. Opinions are distilled from specific instances into general truths, and then acted into the world event-by-event, as new specific experiences are fit back into a general framework. Deference is universally rare, and demands qualification beyond the strength of bias. Actually modifying one’s preconceptions, and the order by which we categorize things mentally, is exceptionally rare, even for those who pride themselves on openmindedness.
But whyyyy? Why must we all make judgements, and insist, and disregard contrary thought? We just do. We have to, in order to maintain a consistent thought process, and to be able to make everyday decisions—even though sometimes we make the wrong decisions.
Often, often, the shape and burden of one individual’s worldview will conflict with another individual’s. This is the rule rather than the exception, even though acknowledged disagreement is relatively rare. We are protected from perpetual argument only by a typical lack of interest and focus. There aren’t enough hours in the day, and calories in our diets. It is funny though, isn’t it, how other people have a way of deciding entirely for themselves what concerns them?